Sunday, 21 July 2013

She's Evil and She's ALWAYS the Victim





Women are often the main victims of female psychopaths via bullying and 'sisters together' peer pressure which often leads the target woman into making huge life-destroying decisions at the behest of the female psychopath who pressured her into it. Most of the victims of female psychopaths who have written to me have been women.

Unlike most books written about psychopaths and sociopaths (ultimately they are same thing) my work was perhaps the first to treat psychopaths as a gender-neutral phenomena. I see no distinction between male and female psychopaths. They are two sides of the same coin, and a coin which needs tossed back into the gutter as soon as you find one. Again be mature about this issue. Not every woman who broke your heart or messed with your head is a Psychopath/Sociopath.    

These traits are things to look out for in a woman if she has a lifelong history of lying, manipulating, using, distorting facts, failure to take responsibility for her actions, never says sorry, instantly ends and starts relationships at the drop of a hat, shows no remorse for lives damaged in her wake, uses her children are bargaining chips, runs smear campaigns, can be prone to temper tantrums followed by instant happiness, claims to be always the victim no matter what, is constantly bailed out by family/friends etc. You build a profile based on long term observation and direct interaction. Even then you must be careful not to throw terms such as 'psychopath' and 'sociopath' willy-nilly.


"in the engagement photo she looked like a Collie pissing up his leg to warn off the other bitches." - unknown 

Contrary to the popular misconception, political correctness among mental health care professionals and active marketing by the Borderline Personality Disorder money machine, there are as many female psychopaths as males roaming the world. This notion of psychopaths being mostly male is reverse, ad hoc sexism. If there is equality between the sexes in all other aspects of life, then this equally applies to psychopathy.

Testosterone

Elevated levels of the male hormone testosterone in both male and female psychopaths is a very distinct marker in assisting with positive identification of a psychopath. This is not to say that anyone who has high testosterone levels—especially women—are psychopaths. We must retain emotional neutrality at all times when we begin to consider if we are dealing with a potential psychopath or not.


An aggressive or impulsive woman may be suffering from a condition such as Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and as a result could be subject to hormonal impulses which can result in negative behaviour. They must have the other four of the five Absolute traits (no remorse, invented persona(s), using pity and strange or contradictory life stories), before you can determine you may be dealing with a psychopath. One swallow does not a summer make.


The hormone testosterone is the key to recognising female psychopaths. They all have the same elevated levels of the hormone as male psychopaths. Higher testosterone levels are associated with increased sex drive, increased sexual activity and as a result a desire to hold power over men. Vicious bullying and aggressive exploitation of non-psychopathic females in workplaces and organisations is also common with the pathology. Testosterone may also be related to the lack of parenting behaviour seen in many psychopathic women. Psychopathic females have been found to be less interested in motherhood—even when they have children.


Typical Female Psychopathic Traits

  • Unexpected sexual arousal - often to divert from emotionally charged situations
  • Large clitoris
  • Pronounced Adams Apple (by female standards)
  • Waking up in pools of sweat even in cool weather
  • Somewhat unfeminine posture when viewed from behind (but this is not a hard and fast rule)
  • Violent or sadistic sexual requests (wanting their nipples bitten hard, etc)
  • Unexpected swing from idealisation of male partners to almost instant cold rejection leaving one feeling shattered, confused and with symptoms similar to Post Traumatic Stress disorder which can last from months to years
  • Extreme and Obvious Flattery. Emulating and Sycophantic Behaviour
    Lovebombing, designed to release large amounts of dopamine and norepinephrine, while reducing low activity in serotonin within the victim's brain so that the victim becomes emotionally dependent on the psychopath and thus becomes highly vulnerable to the psychopath’s suggestions. The areas of the brain that produce dopamine become hyperactive, and are directly related to addictions. Since their teens, psychopaths have learned to manipulate their victims through this technique. The term lovebombing was brought into common usage by the psychologist Professor Margaret Singer in her book Cults in Our Midst.
If you are a nice guy you are more of a target—they will often remark how kind and nice you are. This makes you easy prey. You will also find that the early sweet loving kindness performance of the female psychopath will be interrupted now and again with a nasty and mean performance. Then a cycle develops where the frequencies of the nasty state increases—while the kindness state become less and less. Eventually, from the height of loving, idealisation and adoration the female psychopath obsessively showered you with in the early days—you will find yourself trapped in a negative, unloving and exploitative lifestyle not of your making. 

Smear Campaigns 

She will spread negative and false rumours about you to her friends while garnishing sympathy from her on-tap, plethora of female pity enablers who believe every negative statement about you which she tells them. The female psychopath also generally befriends less attractive, overweight, ‘frumpy’ and unstylish women in order for the female psychopath to look more attractive when in their company. 

Instantly Wants to Get Married/Move In/Start a Family 

Do not fall for the female psychopath telling you she has falling in love with you as soon your meet her. It’s just words. You are nothing ‘special’ and there is every chance of contracting a STD from the event. So be careful. You might also find your wallet with less cash in the morning when she has vanished and an unexpectedly huge credit card bill at the end of the month. Worst still, she may claim to be pregnant by you if she senses you can provide her with free food and accommodation for a while. Female psychopath are as numerous, and operate under the same predator mindset as male psychopaths. 




Thomas Sheridan is generally recognised as one of the world's leading non-academic researchers and authors on the subject of psychopathology.

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57 comments:

  1. Mr. Sheridan
    I have read much of your work. I agree with you on female sociopaths. I have had personal experience one. It's probably been the most vicious attack on me in my life. All psychological though. The spreading false rumors, in order to character assassinate me. Everyone basically knows something is not right about this woman. She is older and has burned all bridges in our town. The problem is, I am having trouble just letting go, and holding my head up high. She has made up some disgusting lies about me. I wanted your advice about how to move on. I feel self conscious about the damage she has done. It's given me anxiety, extreme stress, almost to the point I don't want to leave my house. You are one of the only people I have come across that seem to recognize that women are just as dangerous as the male sociopath, but much more malicious. Any advice would be so appreciated. Thank you

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    1. Hello Kelly,
      I have had similar experience from a female sociopath in office. And this person had a grudge on me for not accepting her. She used the same tactics you mentioned above, i was disturbed but made sure that even she was disturbed the same way.

      To make matters worse for her, even her colleagues didn't support her because they knew that im a good person.

      My suggestion for you is to deal with a her by taking legal action and also don't forget to collect good evidence because female sociopaths are compulsive liars they will never accept what they do but instead will act like a victim and try to prove that you are the one who is harassing her.

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    2. A female psychopath can ruin every part of your life. I should of seen the warning signs. The red flags. But was to stupid. She was unable to have children, and only seemed to want children , because of her jealousy of her own sister, once her sister had a child - the psychopath had to have one too, as if it was a blasé thing. Then the sister had another child and the psychopath had to have one, no matter how she got it

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  2. Hello Kelly, I am so very sorry to hear of your experience with a female Sociopath. I too was struck by one and every word you wrote, resonates strongly with me. Yes, it can feel like the most vicious attack in your entire life. I lost my home, financial security, my friends, everything thanks to this woman. I understand completely how bad you feel. You were very cruelly violated! I bet you feel your very soul has been ripped to shreds don't you? I also understand why you feel you can't move on, yet desperately want to. You're angry and you have every right to be. The drama and chaos she wreaked has broken you! The good news is that you can and will recover from this. I have a very good friend I made in recovery and she has helped me so much. Her name is Paula and she wrote a book Escaping the Boy and she has her own blog 'Identifying a narcissistic sociopath' and it's for anyone to share their stories of their own experiences with sociopaths (male and female) and it is where you will receive all the validation and support you need. Another good website is Psychopath Free. They also have a book to download and this became my bible. Once I read it, it all finally fitted together and I was then able to start healing. I am also creating my own blog 'Life, Interrupted: Personal Memoirs from Survivors of narcissistic abuse' which I hope to publish within the next few weeks. Kelly, please don't despair because you will get through this, I promise. If there's anything I can do to help, please let me know! I'm on facebook under the name 'Sara Survived-It'. Namaste x

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  3. Sad sad how society cannot see how evil some ( not all ) women are. They are not physically abusive, but they are psychologically abusive, which can be worse. Harassment, stalking, smear campaigns is a common behavior for women. The victims know what is happening, but any attempt by the man to defend his character, and he is the psychopathic narcissist...
    The women who is spreading lies, harassing her ex with 10-20 text messages a day, cyber stalking him, making false accusations, and even destroying the relationship a man has (had) with his children. She makes it so difficult to get the children. After years of playing her games when heis only trying to be a good father – drains the life and spirt out of any men.
    Is it puzzling to anyone else but me, that all these websites discussing sociopaths, narcissist, psychopaths - that all the members are women. How many makes websites have you seen where the man is bashing his ex because he chose to leave a toxic situation with a bat sh*t crazy woman...
    The most fu*ked up thing about these psychopathic females is that they do not just target their ex. They will attack anyone who is associated with the man. INCLUDING THE NEW WIFE, the mans parents and family, and any friends that he has left. Psychopaths do NOT think twice about how they are destroying a person. They know exactly what they are doing, they don't care. They want to see you pay (pay for what? Who knows ). One things have noticed that ALL psychopathic women do is the character assassinating. Normal people do not make up out of blue, bold face lies. They may repeat gossip they have heard. But they don't come up with blatant lies, for the sole purpose of ruining someone's reputation. Psychopaths DO!
    I believe the female psychopath is so ruthless, yet puts on a charming and compassionate face, is because of jealousy, and envy of others. She hates anyone who is more successful than her (which is a majority of people) she despises other women, simply for the fact that they are women, and that alone poses a threat to her. She does know that society views women and men very differently, and that gives her the upperhand when attacking her victim. She is a woman, a natural caretaker and nurturer (in the eyes of the world) so no one will suspect that she is the predator. I have seen a female sociopath have a few years of success as a county prosecutor... (Yeah, it's messed up, right?) That career didn't last long, before she was sleeping with the defendants state appointed attorneys and she was asked to resign as city assistant district attorney. So she started her own law practice. Well... That didn't last long either. It was about a year that the state bar was receiving complaint after complaint. She was apparently taking on as many clients as she could, asking for $3000 - $10,000 dollar retainer fees, and doing absolutely nothing in their case. The people who gave her basically all the money they had in order to hire her as their attorney, never saw her again. They would call her, and she pretended to be her secretary. Telling the people that she was unavailable because she had uterine cancer and was currently under going chemotherapy and radiation to get rid of the deadly cancer. Of course she never had cancer.
    Eventually the state bar had a large enough case against her to have her disbarred indefinatley. So was justice served? I font think so. No one got there money back. The psychopath never actually worked, so being disbarred didn't change her life any. It only means that she will have to find another way to scam and rob people

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    1. Best description ever of what I have lived and doccumentedvin my life.
      Help!
      What's going to happen to our daughter? Whom loves her dad and has gone through hell now at age 6

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  4. Kate jean melbourne psychopath libel/slander violence property destruction defrauded centrelink more than 40k$ cash in hand over 4 years disgusting* please investigate dept human services vic*

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  5. Thomas, I think you need to also accept Borderline Personality Disorder is a serious and genuine disorder and often those people are more difficult to deal with than psychopaths. You mentioned it once in youtube interview that you didn't think it was a genuine condition. Trust me these people often behave like psychopaths but this is simply because they hav a deep fear of abandonment. It stems from a trauma in early childhood (2-3 years old where they dissociated from severe stress) that has never been healed and therefore this repeats in adulthood. Most children would recover in the next few years from any such trauma. The reason these people are so difficult to deal with is that when they revert to this state they don't have proper view of reality due to the early age of the trauma. They basically think anything outside themselves is realted to them and expect people to automatically know what they are thinking etc because they go back to the same age that the trauma occurred.

    Anyway, they have this extreme fear that has never healed that is as terrifying for them as having a gun held to their head and they do whatever they can to avoid any sort of hint of rejection to prevent this pain. They will become totally nuts and almost impossible to deal with. There is a way to deal with but love doesn't work..you need to understand how they see reality when they fear rejection to have a chance of helping them.

    A saint can deal with a psychopath (and will find it easier to detect them than normal people) but borderline personalities become totally attached and it's very hard to leave and the victim will trigger their disorder continually when trying to help them and will feel trapped and suffocated at best. They will even suck the soul of a saint into this deep hole from their trauma that can never be filled.

    Unlike the psychopath, the borderline actually wants love and looks for someone totally loving who can provide this unconditionally, always to the victims detriment until the disordered person can face their massive trauma. Often what happens if the victim tries desperately to leave is that the disordered person becomes pregnant and claims the victim is the father.

    Many female psychopaths in fact have Borderline Personality Disorder as I've defined it. They manage to twist everything destructive they do into the fault of the victim and can never accept responsibility for any problems or they will die psychologically. They will definitely spread rumours to all their friends etc. and often become extremely violent which will escalate.

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  6. A good guide to whether the behaviour is due to an early trauma is whether the disordered person grabs your arms and scratches them...they will normally also bite you....this is normal behaviour for a three year old facing severe trauma...they will try to cling on to a caregiver. Do not talk to them like an adult who perceives the world normally when they are like this as it will make them worse.

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  7. Borderline personality disorder has nothing on the psychopath. The psychopath is ruthless. No heart no soul. The borderline is hurt and is acting crazy as a defense to survival. The psychopath is just sadistic and evil. The borderline actually would cringe and be upset if they saw a murder happen. The psychopath would not be affected. Because they lack human emotions that make us different than animals. Someone with borderline next out their insecurities. When on the other hand a psychopath is flying under the radar basically screwing up and destroying the lives of everybody while acting like they care or of the victim

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    1. You have described the difference perfectly. So many people mistake the borderline as evil when they likely suffer more pain than what they impose out of pure panic on others. They are hugely misunderstood and not out to harm they suffer so much the psychopath does not.

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  8. I'm totally in agreement with Mr. Sheridan. There are as many if not more female psychopath then males. The difference is people suspect the mail of being this violent psycho. When females take advantage of the fact that society views them as caretakers mothers a nurturers. So they know they are least likely to be blamed for such heinous behavior. So they falsely accuse others of them. Usually me. I am a woman and have seen this in many woman. I have also seen a lot of women say that their ex-husband was a sociopaths or psychopath or a narcissist simply because he cheated on her. Psychopaths do cheat. But not all cheaters are psychopaths. A psychopath will literally destroy your life your reputation and take away everything that you care about

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    1. And not all socipaths are cheaters. Some have certain standards that they hold to, as some kind of cover for their using of people and ruthless ways. One guy that I was involved with,would not cheat but he also wouldn't comitt and was a total stringer user and bragger about it. Basically, it meant nothing other than he used and slept with one woman at a time. He was over weight and not that good looking so I don't think he was giving up much. But he thought it was some virtue. He could get very jealious about me though and called me a cheater and a whore. The female one I knew tried to say she was good and didn't cheat. She did so many other things,and destroyed lives and manipulated and used her kids as pawns. These types of people manifest their behaviours in different ways but the long history of exploitive covert predatory conduct,no real healthy relationships of any duration, criminal activity,ruthless and immature,selfish and dysfunctiinal. It's all the same no matter if they cheat or not.

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    2. And not all socipaths are cheaters. Some have certain standards that they hold to, as some kind of cover for their using of people and ruthless ways. One guy that I was involved with,would not cheat but he also wouldn't comitt and was a total stringer user and bragger about it. Basically, it meant nothing other than he used and slept with one woman at a time. He was over weight and not that good looking so I don't think he was giving up much. But he thought it was some virtue. He could get very jealious about me though and called me a cheater and a whore. The female one I knew tried to say she was good and didn't cheat. She did so many other things,and destroyed lives and manipulated and used her kids as pawns. These types of people manifest their behaviours in different ways but the long history of exploitive covert predatory conduct,no real healthy relationships of any duration, criminal activity,ruthless and immature,selfish and dysfunctiinal. It's all the same no matter if they cheat or not.

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  9. Betalg - I do agree with you that borderline personality disorder people can also be psychopaths. But I also agree with Mr. Sheridan when he says that it is something invented by the big Pharma to make money. It's a very confusing subject for me because I have seen very many traits in individuals that show borderline tendencies but also at the same time no remorse no conscience

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  10. Oh my god this is so absolutely true. Thank god I never met this psychopath in real life.

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  11. Female psychopaths look like your average soccer mom. My sister is a psychopath. She has been married 5 times. And adopted 2 children her 3rd marriage. The man is still paying child support for the children they adopted together. And his life is miserable. His new wife came into the situation. And my sister has made her life miserable. My sister uses the kids against her ex and uses guilt. She doesn't love the children, or at least she doesn't love them as much as she hates her ex and wants to bleed him dry. The fact that I must see my sister at holidays. And deal with the lies and see her play victim. Trashing her exes (especially the one that she has the adopted children with) is disgusting. But if I dare speak up. Then I will be her target. And so will my children. So I say nothing

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  12. I have been involved with psychopaths all my life. In fact just about every one I know is a psychopath. I would not recommend the psychopath to anyone, as they are totally out of control and you have to be tough in order to handle the little brats. They are really crazy people and the sad thing is that they don't even know it. It is madness living with a psychopath. Australian Author/Poet Theresa A O'Dea 6th Nov 14

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    1. Once you recognise their lies and selfish scams it can be too late to get away. Too many people are so driven by money and power that they lose their conscience along the way. What I hate is the way that they deny facts when caught with their hand in the cookie jar and then dissolve into tears to play on your guilt for having hurt them with the truth. No guilt. Irresponsible. Superficially charming. Highly self-serving and dishonest. Not my cup of chai either. The best response is no response or reaction.

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    3. You have been involved with psychopaths all your life? And you would not recommend them to anyone?
      I'm sorry but your statement is strange. Obviously no one in their right mind would say "hey I recommend you try dating a psychopath, they sure are fun, easy going and kind"
      And if u are/have been involved with psychopaths your entire life, you should look into that and possibly get help for yourself. Because you choose who you want to be in your company and if you're choosing psychopath, maybe that needs to be addressed.
      Everyone deserves to be happy and live a life of joy. Psychos will definitely rob you and anyone that they leech onto of a joyous life and happiness.
      But it's not to late to be happy. Yes the psychopaths are blood sucking, energy zapping, emotional raping assholes.

      But at some point - we have to accept what happened, look AT OUR OWN SELF, because blaming the psychopath and thinking you will ever get any resolution or closure is a fantasy.
      IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN! Let it go
      Life your life. You have emotional scars, but don't let them define who you really are ॐ

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  13. So the question is... How do us who have a conscious defeat the sociopath/psychopath?
    I don't think that we can defeat the psycho. Only a bigger psychopath can defeat the psychopath

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  14. This theory has gone too far now. Psychopath is becoming an urban legend. This particular theory presented here is discriminatory against women who dont fit sex stereotypes. Most of the manipulative women i know are the classic feminine types, the more "masculine" driven types tend to be more honest about things.

    You claim to be gender neutral here, but what you are is sex neutral and discriminating against those women who express traits associated with masculinity.

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    1. I agree. Their physical traits, as well as their hormonal traits - have nothing to do with the fact that they're either psychopathic or sociopathic. Psychological traits are merely multifactorial from a Genetic standpoint. In a particular disorder, Bipolar - they've linked eight genes to the disease. That being said, if they've linked eight genes to Manic Depression/Bipolar - then there has to be something more concrete than this. Also - Being more masculine has nothing to do with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Testosterone levels have nothing to do with Psychopathy. If you're a psychopath, it doesn't matter whether or not your clitoris is enlarged, and if you have no physical traits that are overtly female in general. This is merely a sexist statement that needs more tangible evidence and Scientific proof made by someone who is working in the fields of Psychiatry, Psychology, and Genetics. As far as I'm concerned this is no better than pre-Freudian Psychology and would be completely laughable to someone who actually knows what the fuck they're talking about. I'll be sure to show someone who has a degree that ISN'T a quack and see what they have to say about this.

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    2. Another arrogant white witch; lay off the F word if you can restrain yourself and be a little bit lady-like. Your female ancestors, IF they could read this and know you, would 100% agree.

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  15. This theory has gone too far now. Psychopath is becoming an urban legend. This particular theory presented here is discriminatory against women who dont fit sex stereotypes. Most of the manipulative women i know are the classic feminine types, the more "masculine" driven types tend to be more honest about things.

    You claim to be gender neutral here, but what you are is sex neutral and discriminating against those women who express traits associated with masculinity.

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  16. I also think that today’s society fails to understand the traits associated with masculinity. Instrumental traits vs. expressive traits run along a spectrum and this gets linked with sex via sex roles and possibly some biological stuff. Regardless of sex most people have a balance of instrumental and expressive traits and as a result are able to function on the people orientated channel and the object focused channel. Sex roles forced women to use and develop the people focused way of functioning as their main approach to life. Sex roles force men to develop the object focused approach over the people focused approach. Some evidence indicates biology tips the sexes more to one side then the other and some people may be born with a sex role orientation more like the other sex. Most people though don’t have an extreme pattern in either direction, but for some reason some people end up this way and are less functional.

    If you end up more object focused and instrumental your adrenal glands will be more active BC of how you function, and this is why the testosterone raises, you can raise your testosterone by acting in a certain way. The testosterone is not the problem its just part of the package, even the package is not the problem but the society is. This society over values the traits of compassion and empathy and it does not see how anyone can be a good person without them, today’s society does not need the products of an instrumental personality as much bc we don’t need as much strength and aggression to survive. What happens is these individuals are born with some emotions but are switched to receive most of their feedback via instrumental actions rather then connection. This is why "psychopaths" seek a buzz on the dopamine reward circuit via risk taking etc, it’s over use of instrumental feedback BC they can’t get the expressive feedback loop going. How people respond to these people can damage them emotionally and lead to them turning against others and their hunt and kill or destroy mechanism turns on other people, they can’t receive social feedback emotionally so the process cannot be switched off. If they grow up in an environment where they can feel fully belonging for how they are then they won’t go down that path but are aware of a lack or shortfall in themselves and opt to navigate.

    They are not truly evil, true evil requires empathy because to be true evil you have to fully be able to put yourself in the others shoes and relate emotionally and still choose to do it.

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    1. beautiful thoughts, neon. thx.

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    2. The classic psychopath lacks empathy and is egocentric. They do not recognise or respond to fear or sadness and are devoid of deep emotions or attachment. Their inability to empathise is what enables them to lie, cheat and kill then sit down to a juicy steak. Chilling but true. Their sole objective is to win and remain unaccountable for their criminal behaviour.

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    4. You said it well. I agree completly. I also would add their egocentricity and over inflated self esteem, has a flip side of insecurity. It's a weird parralell. Being unaccountable and without empathy or remorse and having to win. Yep yep!! Those traits on steroids tells me they're beyond just bad or weak charecther. When you get a clue they set out to destroy you so no one will support you or believe a word you say. And after this kind of experience you'll be emotionally unhinged and unstable for awhile. So, it's so easy to have them be successful for awhile, plus they're really good at this. But eventually, the truth will come out. And by then it won't matter as much. You learn to hold your head up on your own if need be. It's one thing to make some mistakes, it's quite another, if one is a bad person.

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    5. You said it well. I agree completly. I also would add their egocentricity and over inflated self esteem, has a flip side of insecurity. It's a weird parralell. Being unaccountable and without empathy or remorse and having to win. Yep yep!! Those traits on steroids tells me they're beyond just bad or weak charecther. When you get a clue they set out to destroy you so no one will support you or believe a word you say. And after this kind of experience you'll be emotionally unhinged and unstable for awhile. So, it's so easy to have them be successful for awhile, plus they're really good at this. But eventually, the truth will come out. And by then it won't matter as much. You learn to hold your head up on your own if need be. It's one thing to make some mistakes, it's quite another, if one is a bad person.

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    6. Neon - I appreciate your point and the passion you have for human beings.
      But unfortunately there really are EVIL people on earth. They are organic portals and they actually lack a soul. so when their physical body expires, so does their existence.
      I believe that those of us with souls, when we expire, and our time here on Earth is over, our soul remains and moves on to its next destination (keeping fingers crossed that the next destination will NOT BE EARTH AGAIN..)
      Don't learn lessons here on earth, and you will be sent back here.
      Thanks for your positive outlook. I really love that. And it makes me remember that there are human beings that are good, loving and open minded.
      After being betrayed and hurt- by human beings so many times, I have become skeptical of them
      THESE ARE MY OWN ISSUES, that I am dealing with one day at a time.

      Much love to Everyone ॐ

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  17. Even I am living with apsychopathic woman. she is my brother in laws wife. All of us suffered under her for some time. Thanks to internet I came across this psychological problem and hav done extensive study and still studying. Thats how i happened to visit this blog. Though I am not very successful, i am able to keep her at bay. She doesnt trouble me anymore. Even if she tries, its unsuccessful, since nobody belives her anymore.

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  18. Even I am living with apsychopathic woman. she is my brother in laws wife. All of us suffered under her for some time. Thanks to internet I came across this psychological problem and hav done extensive study and still studying. Thats how i happened to visit this blog. Though I am not very successful, i am able to keep her at bay. She doesnt trouble me anymore. Even if she tries, its unsuccessful, since nobody belives her anymore.

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  19. I am 44, was divorced for 4 years, and began dating the sexiest woman I had ever met in Nov 2014 who was age 50 and a life and relationship coach with mastery certifications in NLP, Hypnosis, Human Behavior. We had 5 dates in 2 weeks when we first had sex, and the sex was non-stop through December. One night in early December, I told her I wanted to marry her. We married January 10 in a little chapel by ourselves. On Jan 21, we traveled to Philadelphia to meet my family. While waiting for our flight to board, she got up to use the ladies room, and then did not return for 20 minutes. When I found her, she crying, shaking, and looking Confused. She said there was a voicemail on her phone from a girl that knew me threatening to kill her if she ever hurt me and because she was not good enough to be with me. She said the girl's name which was a girl I worked out with at the gym. I knew this girl for 4 years, did ask her to go to 2 events with me in the past, a wedding and a concert, but never talked or saw her outside the gym. We did have sexual banter from knowing and talking to each other for a number of years. My wife accused me of Stage 2 cheating, emotional infidelity. She forbade me from going to the gym or going hiking up a Mtn with my friend because we were "trolling for chicks" and I could not be trusted. She kept me up until late hours all through February, interrogating me on female relationships of my clients and Outlook Contacts. She took away my personal Facebook page, made me delete my LinkedIn profile, Instagram, and all other social media. She started monitoring every text, email, and phone call made or received. All conversations had to be told to her verbatim. She accused me of crossing the lines with female clients by having lunch with them, made me fire several female clients, and even said that one of the female clients told her that she had sex with me the previous year (which never happened). She scoured the internet looking for any information on me that she could find, made me set up clients for work to be done remotely so she could monitor me. She searched through my old laptops, made me delete every photo of me and other women. She found a love letter I wrote to a girl in August 2011. I had made that girl my life insurance beneficiary because she was my closest friend at the time and I had no wife or children. She forbade me to ever have contact with her again or would file divorce which I called the girl and told.her so with my wife present. Two months the later, I received an email from that girl that she had not heard from me and to use secret email. My wife cried, was in shock, and upset the entire day and then rampage on me the entire next day. We essentially argued just about every day from Jan 21 to May 21. Her venom was very abusive. On May 21, we started arguing at 8:45 AM and she got nastier throughout the day. I tried to de-escalate it 4 or 5 times. At 4 PM, she drank a bottle of wi e in an hour and got completely out of control. After she threatened to put a bat into my head, I told her I was leaving. In trying to leave, she threw stuff out of the 3rd story window, and then threw boxes of my papers for work into the elevator. Paper and client's receipts were everywhere. She made numerous threats of destroying me personally and professionally. My friend arrived to help me leave. She started pulling my clothes out of my arms and throwing stuff in the street. I got everything into the car, and she jumped into the passenger seat and would not allow me to leave. I eventually called 911. The police showed up and hand cuffed her and arrested her for battery of a spouse. My friend and I grabbed everything that would fit into my car and I got out. I later confirmed that no stalking calls ever took place. My client ever said that she slept with me. And the email received by the girl in the previous month did not own the email address. My wife made up the email address it the girl's name and emailed me herself and then faked all of the emotions over the next 2 days.

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  20. Hello. Your videos are brilliant. I would love to have some conversations with you on other ways to tell if someone is *not* a psychopath... I have found some ways to tell. I have been dealing with a psychopathic hate-stalker for a year now. Omg. I just posted one of your videos and a long commentary on it https://plus.google.com/+IsabelleHakala/posts/AMwEtBYgv1E

    I am someone who has a background that makes it look like I am psycho. I got brain damage in the 90s so my time line is screwed. I have almost no pictures of myself from before 10 years ago. I had a very abusive childhood so if I talk about it people think I am trying to garner pity, even tho I just and to raise awareness on the issue. I have done a lot of things so far in my life and people often look at me like I must be lying bc most people just don't do this much.

    But I am someone who is highly empathic. I take responsibility for steps that lead up to things. I constantly limit abusive and controlling people from being in my life. I am very tenacious. I keep an upbeat view of life.

    People need to know to look for the "bad" signs, but they also need to know how to differentiate between them being signs of a psychopath, and when they aren't. Those are the things I want to help you to document:)

    I added you on g+. You can msg me there if you wish. I would love to speak with you:)

    Thank you for your efforts!

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  21. I just recently found out I was married to a phycopath for 21 years .. She trashed my reputation and cheated on my numerous times with 2 of my friends who I thought were my brothers in the Lord and were involved with our church ..I recently found out she also had countless affairs with woman and more men now that we are divorced..She would character assassinate me to the congregation members but I had no clue at all. We participated in a church LMO for years and I was in the music group and I remember I had to go for rehearsals on Saturdays , she quickly turned on the church and myself saying that Saturday's are for families and kept harassing me so much I later quit the music group .. Her good friend at the church always helped her with with all of her emotional needs and that woman was a real Saint , she would go out and help the youth and talk to them about our God and savior at the bridge ..that is a place where displaced kids are kept that have been shunned by either society or their parents . Well my wife would talk so bad about her that I myself was believing this woman was not what she pertained . To make a long story short , this friend of hers passed away from cancer a few years ago and I found out now that my wife and that woman's husband who is a pastor were having an affair and they just married on Dec 3 2015 , everything comes to light says the Lord , the manipulation has already started he has stepped down as pastor in his congregation and countless of people and friends are disgusted by his actions . The wickedness has started on her part I heard she has a fallen out with his daughter and wanted to provoke her into a fight . This man is taking medication .. This man was my friend I saw him like a brother , he is a good man but this wicked woman has her clutches of death around his soul , he seems dazed and confused .. He does not know who he just married .. All we can do is pray now, the judgment wil come ..

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    1. I highly suggest you research the Jezebel spirit. Sounds like she is victim to this evil entity.

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    2. I highly suggest you research the Jezebel spirit. Sounds like she is victim to this evil entity.

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  22. It is sad how so many have been abused by psychopaths. How many lives they have destroyed. LITERALLY DESTROYED. So many talk about the typical male psychopath/sociopath... Ugh.. Yes some men are sociopath. But I believe as many men there are sociopaths, there is an equal amount of women. The thing with women tho, is that they hide it much better. They use being a female to their advantage. It's is so sickening because it takes a women doing the most awful things (over and over and over, etc...) again before some the mass public begin to see what the 'real' problem is... i.e. the individual has no conscience, no moral compass, devoid of empathy, and basically soulless being that is walking among the living, wreaking havoc, and even more terrifying is that they are allowed to reproduce and trusted to raise children, who which are severely neglected and become either sociopaths themselves or are unable to function in society.
    One thing that I see so much, is when a man cheats on his wife, the wife claims him to be a narcissist or sociopath or psychopath. I am in no means justifying infedelity on a mans part. I am a female so I am not biased. But just because a man cheats does not make him psychopath. Women on otherhand are somewhat a different species than man, when it comes to sex. Most men I know would hump a phone booth in public (if they could without judgment) just because they get the urge. Women tho do not seem to have these 24/7 sex urges that men have. So when I see a woman who is a serial cheater, yes sociopath comes to mind. But it is only my belief that a women is such, if I see other behaviors. Cheating alone doesn't qualify one as a sociopath. I believe sociopathic women are more prone to cheat, because of their high testosterone levels. Women all have a little testosterone but sociopathic women have almost as much as a 45 year old Man. This is not my assumption, this is facts from a study done in Philadelphia in 2011, of incarcerated women, and women who are living in a half way house, recently paroled from prison. It seems as tho some women had normal testosterone levels, but a majority (repeat offenders) had higher levels. The ones with normal levels seemed to have committed crimes where they got mixed up with wrong crowd, didn't have history of violence of history or committing crimes. Anyways peace out
    To all of my sisters and brothers who have suffered due to a psychopath, rather it be male or female, the pain is still the same. The scars are Deep and lasting, and the hurt is real. Know that you aren't alone, and you don't have to suffer forever. Live today the best you can, tomorrow is not promised for any of us... ❤️

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  23. Avoid people who lie and cheat and remain irresponsible and selfish. Some people profit from deception and feel entitled to exploit and abuse other people. It is shattering to be duped and used by such manipulative creeps. They make you pay for the privilege of being used, hurt and cheated. Avoid contact. Be quiet. Don't react. Document. Focus elsewhere to regain your sanity and clarity or the world will appear a dark and dangerous place.

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  24. So about a month ago this distant cousin of mine after 9 mos. of mostly texting me, long story but apparently she had undergone a Hysterectomy. Now, what I don't quite get is, yes she fits every marker of a real Psychopath, but how is it she is such a promiscuous, evil individual with the T-machinery removed ? Hormone replacement ? But I don't expect it would ever be possible to go by anything she said, anyway...

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  26. How about a psychopathic woman that has had a hysterectomy? What then would account for their high sex drive, etc? Hormone replacement therapy? I pose a serious inquiry. Recent (very bad but glad "it" vanished) experience with a 37-yr-old who claimed to have had ovarian cancer surgery @ 30. Other than that, she fits all criteria on the list.

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    1. My psychopathic ex wife couldn't gave children after many failed IVF she finally became pregnant. But only 1 baby lived. And she had a hysterectomy and she became even more evil after that. My daughter was 4 when she started sleeping with her colleague 35 years her senior! She is disgusting. She makes everyday Of my life miserable. The only way I will ever find peace in this life is thru death!

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  27. Yeah both of above are mine, wasn't trying to post twice about the same damn topic ha, just one of the quirks of using a phone I guess.

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  28. This article is right on target. It happened to me, but I survived and regained my life back. Sure I got the smear campaign and the emotional trauma, but I got my marriage back and my old life. That's what she envied I think, and what I failed to realize when I was being influenced and had become a lessor person under her phoney friendship. It hurts that some people won't believe you and trust the sociopath's version of events entirely. But if a few support you and you get away and stand your ground, you'll be fine. You can even pity the poor people who still think the sociopath women is nice or exciting and fun. Better them than you. She doesn't have access or your naievete anymore to hurt you with. You're enlightened now.

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  29. Another thing to keep in mind,is a sociopath is going to have other sociopath's usually males in their inner circle. The So, it's usually not just the female one, who will groom and facilitate your downfall. She will have,her lackeys and her birds,of a feather to make sure you will not thrive. And when you figure it out, you'll have to deal with all of them. You either get strong or become everything they said you were and tried to drive you to.

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  30. Another thing to keep in mind,is a sociopath is going to have other sociopath's usually males in their inner circle. The So, it's usually not just the female one, who will groom and facilitate your downfall. She will have,her lackeys and her birds,of a feather to make sure you will not thrive. And when you figure it out, you'll have to deal with all of them. You either get strong or become everything they said you were and tried to drive you to.

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    1. J - you have posted a lot today. I feel you must have been recently very scorned/screwed over by this sociopath.

      Don't let such a low life creature consume too many of your thoughts. They aren't worth it, they have no soul, and no spirit.

      But I have enjoyed reading your post. They are very spot on and correct.
      And if positing them is helping you to get your anger out (and it's ok to be angry- you have that right)
      Just don't let it consume you. From just reading your post, I take it you are very intelligent and have common sense and have experienced pain, and you are able to articulate it very well.

      Most have this pain and unfortunately they can't articulate it well, so sometimes they may sound "crazy" (hate that terminology )
      and boy does the sociopath love it!
      They jump right on it, seeing their victims pain is causing them to express themselves so emotionally - the sociopath will destroy/ annihilate their victim some more

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  31. Testosterone? ... the ones I'm thinking of have a torso shaped like a barrel, not an hourglass. Could be something.

    I picture them feeding estrogen pills to their husbands. In the Malleus Maleficarum, witches were accused of stealing penises.It sure seems that way. Like some kind of testosterone transfer taking place.

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  32. Guys,

    I am also a vivctim of sociopath wife and my worry is I have beatiful kid with her. I got to know that she is Sociopath after she recenlty cheated with me on her colllegue. After reasearching her behaviour over web, I got to know she is one sociopath. I never had time apart from work and taking care of kid and was thinking that she is having some issue with Depression and she need some help with doctor. I tried make her many during this phase of her affair. She was just ignoring me shouting and yelling at me all the time. She never let me touch her. I always thought she has some mental issue and told her to go for therapy for which she did not agree. She started saying that she wont love me anymore and when I asked if she is having someone she always said no. One fine day I got doubt and came home early to see her msgs on phone from her BF, and also learnt that they had sex the same day I caught her. Now when I confronted on this she said she is not sorry of what she has done and she doent think its a mistake. Also she starting yelling at me and omplained about me watching porn and how I treated her etc etc. BTW friends I am not an abusive husband and have never hit her or abused her. That same day I could not take that she cheated on me and had to go to ER as I was getting anxity attacks. After that Incident she did not say sorry for what happened till now. If I ask she will "yes I am sorry for what happend". Thats it. No actual remorse. Never till date its been more than a month. Only thing I am fighting is sometimes I feel should I give a chance for sake of my 3 yr old kid. But I cant forget the text messages she had with her BF on intercourse she had (from text msgs definately she was not depressed). Now she is saying she wants to patch but no remorse. When I ask about it she says how many time she has to say sorry and start yelling again.

    Also she is pregnant with his baby and we are getting rid of that. I am support her emotionally and physically also in this phase.

    When we met together 8 years back, we bonded right away. She felt really nice person. Everyone my family liked her. Till now I am not able to believe she did this and she is one sociopath. She has lot of traits of sociopath. She lied to ne for almost 8 months during her affair. She never acccept any mistakes she just argues and put something on me. She always more flirty to the men. She doesnt have any women friends. She is charming and get things done from especially.

    Now I'm so confused .. should I give another chance if she agrees on going to therapy and wont do this again? This is because I want my daughter and I love her and believe cant live without her. If I continue, it will reduce the pain our families go though. Please share your thoughts as I keep on fluctuating on my deciosion every hour. Please go through the case and let me know what to do and how to approach.

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  33. I was associated with a "lovely" girl and over 6 years she:
    1.Cheated on husband many times - devalued discarded/divorced.  Drove the agenda.
    2.Triangulation
    3.Early said "you will fall in love with me"
    4.Had web profiles for risky sex hookups .. including bringing them to the marital bed.
    5.Pursued married men - even interstate
    6.No morals - previously admitted
    7.Extreme interest in porn
    8.Said "there's something wrong with me"
    9.Love bombed targets
    10.Rapid pursuit of relationship.. before ending other
    11.Idealize devalue discard
    12.Hoovering .. and using aliases while engaged.
    13.No respect for boundaries
    14.Said "you don't want to be in my head"
    15.Said she's "like a Black Widow"
    16.Devious
    17.Manipulative
    18.Covert liar - previously admitted "I lie about everything"

    I am guessing she was a Sociopath/Narcossist?

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  34. Well--at least the trash was honest enough to admit being a Liar...a benefit I usually don't get.

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  35. I was going thru trauma.. My ex wife says something to me n different things to others.. She has said many false things to people which hurted me psychologically when I heard.. I suffered from trauma because she liked materialistic things n wanted n taken money thru false allegations She was telling a complete wrong things n saying that I m psycho which sometimes gave me frustration bcoz I m not... Pls help me to forget my financial loss n psychological loss..

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